Sustainable Change = Real Change
When people hire a coach is mainly because there is something in their lives that they want to change. The focus of every coach’s work should be helping people to achieve real and sustainable change which I believe can only take place from the inside out. For that reason, we should focus on the inner transformation, which will manifest as the external changes we have been trying to force for so long.
We cannot force change, growth and development, but we can allow it. When we let go of the attachments for an specific outcome, when we let go of the fear, when we let go of trying so hard, when we let go of comparing ourselves to others, when we let go of our limiting beliefs, what remains is our essence, the real us, and change just comes naturally because we have released the resistances that were holding us back, and making change difficult and painful.
The deepest reality of everything is very simple. If things are hard and complicated it is because we are going on the wrong direction. We should be able to enjoy our life and the experiences we have. Every life experience should become an opportunity to learn more about ourselves, and about how to focus our creative energy to accomplish our goals and live a happy and fulfilling life.
Many people make plans with many steps and hundreds of elements to consider, or at least they think they should make those plans and work very hard in order to accomplish their goals, but the truth is that those plans just don’t work for everyone; I can tell you that they don’t work for me.
It is important to remember that we cannot approach change with a sense of urgency. Real, lasting change takes time. Real change requires courage to face reality even when it is uncomfortable and we don’t like it; requires openness to pay attention to our feelings and emotions even though at times we may wish to run away from them. Real change requires much love and acceptance of what it is happening inside and outside of us. Real change requires believing in possibility and in our capacity to transform those possibilities into the realities we want and deserve.
When we are consciously aware of where we are and where we want to be, when we consciously and without judgment pay attention to everything that is happening in our lives, including our thoughts, our feelings, our emotions, our reactions, and our actions, we can begin to choose differently and when we do that things begin to shift inside of us, we begin to see more clearly the next step we need to take, we begin to take actions that move us forward but at the same time feel good to us, and we begin to experience change and transformation in every area of our lives without forcing it.
I believe that change, transformation and success are available for everybody that is open to it, and that at this moment your desires, your dreams, your goals… are just waiting to unfold and become your new reality.
Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Soto
Elizabeth Soto is an Associate Certified Coach (ACC) through the International Coach Federation, a graduate of the International Coach Academy and has received formal training in Coaching for Transformational Presence by Alan Seale. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Business Management from the University of Delaware in Newark, DE.